Talking about unfaithfulness in a relationship, it’s evident that women have the upper hand. They can only be very discreet about it. It could take years, if not eternity for her spouse to know that she’s cheating. But men are not so very good in covering up such loop holes.
And I think this has to do with the fact that, women really devote more time for their spouse more than their male counterparts. Women monitor every of their man’s movements, calls, text messages and sometimes forge further to search his pockets just to check for evidence to nail the man.
Some women who are in doubt of their husband’s fidelity go as far as trying to perceive the smell of the perfume on his clothe. Every time the man returns from work, they cross check if it has deviated from the one he wore in the morning to expensive feminine cologne.
Interestingly, when we snoop out something fishy and suspicious, we stir up a serious quarrel that might lead to a fight. But at the end of the whole drama we still remain ‘unmoved’.
Others who feel more threatened with the workers or staff around their husbands, always sees one flimsy excuse or the other to lurk around his working place or office like an over protective lioness watchful of any ‘unfriendly’ being to attack.
But if a woman is caught in the act, she does everything humanly possible to make her affairs a top secret. You should also give it to our women, for they possess a great skill in lying. Ironically, you would admit that men are liars but indeed, women are better and smarter.
One assignment I would give to all married and about-to-married couples is to make sure they play their cards well, because for a man or women to cheat on his or her spouse, they must have being a leakage from either of the parties. They could probably be some things you are not doing right.
For a man who admires you, with deep love and affection, as he also desires to have you for keeps by showering you with blings and billions just to make you are his better half then all of a sudden starts withdrawing from the lovey-dovey husband he used be and now prefers gallivanting with other ladies, sampling their ‘goods’ in the process is a what kills a woman’s dream.
If I were you (the wife), instead of going on the street or market place to wage war against those ‘husband snatchers’, I would rather go back to my drawing board and sought out that big hole where the water that is ‘rocking’ my marriage infiltrated from.
Maybe you’re no longer doing ‘it’ right; I mean those wacky and funky things you do that trips him and drives him wild- especially in sex related areas. You suddenly sub-peddled, believing that you have succeeded in capturing him for life. My dear, you have to put lots of efforts to get what you want, but still have to work harder to maintain, sustain and retain it.
You are much relaxed as you gulp down anything edible thing that comes your way and had deviated from the sexy looking chic he married into a ‘rounded unattractive fellow’ alias iya-orobo. You no longer value your personal hygiene and charms.
Worse still, you would leave your hair so unkempt or old, worn out and smelly, adopting the I-don’t- care attitude for those little things that mattered and you except your darling husband to hang on and keep putting up with all those absurd behaviors of yours.
Put on your thinking cap woman! Men are not easy to have for keeps these days. If you doubt me, ask desperate single ladies who have turned into night clawers visiting one native doctor or the other seeking for solutions to their marital status.
I know it’s not easy combining the job of a mother, wife and worker or trader, but your primary objective should be how to take good care of your home- yourself inclusive.
You can hold your husband down by spicing up your sex lives on daily basis. Learn different styles and positions from books, internet or wherever and practice it with your hubby. Show him the real stuff you are made of, you know na? You can also form the habit of buying that skimpy, sexy night wears. Those nights, you observe that he’s in a good mood; you surprisingly put it on for him- for his eyes only. Make him grow goose pimples anytime he remembers you in his office. Even when he’s not in town, the thoughts of you would be over him and he would hurry up with whatever official engagement that took him out there, dash back to you for another ‘treat’.
In fact, all women have all it takes to make both the head of their husband and that of its third leg, spin and jubilate whenever the thought of you crosses their mind.
Our men are very caring and lovable, but what you get from them also depends on how you treat them or what you have to offer. It’s a give and take kind of relationship.