Love sometimes could be very complicated and unpredictable. One minute you presume you love your spouse dearly and can do anything to keep him or her forever locked in your bosom. The next moment, you are ready to quit the relationship on the basis of a flimsy excuse, while at the same time you are already thinking about starting another relationship you consider would be the best for you at the moment.
Little wonder people seldom find themselves in a love triangle or in sticky situation of double-timing. In such a complex situation, some ladies easily dump their former partners for the latest ones without qualms especially if the new love interest is more flamboyant, cuter and possibly overgenerous in his spending. Who no like better thing? We all know the lure of big spenders to our present day Nigerian babes. It is such a shame that these days, the love of money and greed has led our young girls into committing all sorts of atrocities just to belong to the clique.
It is common among Nigerian babes to see it as a right for guys to take care of them financially. Once a babe snags up a new guy, she starts thinking of changing everything right from her wardrobe to her menstrual pad! Why must you see that prospective guy coming into your life anew as a meal ticket? If he truly loves you, you don’t need to bug him to buy you this or buy you that before he does. Care and affection are the natural outgrowth of love. As for me, a guy may be as rich as Bill Gates or Mike Adenuga, if he doesn’t love me or if I find it difficult to reciprocate the love he supposedly have for me, why should we be wasting our time when I know we are not getting anywhere? It is this attitude of seeing men as mealtickets that makes a lot of ladies wait endlessly for Mr. Rich Guy (whom they wrongly assumed to be their Mr Right). Don’t get me wrong. I am not saying that I detest money (afterall, what’s better than money?) but true relationship is not all about money or what the guy has to offer.
Like Oyibo people would say, all that glitters is not gold. Some greedy chics would easily opt out of their previous relationship for another, based on the financial status of the new guy, only to discover after a while that they have been chasing shadows, because all the new catch has to offer is money and nothing more, not even good bed action. Therefore, after few weeks or probably months of boring sex life, they would start regretting jilting their former partner. Many a girl would even be so carried away with the act of love making that she would keep moaning and groaning the names of her former partner while the new stud is busy pumping away on top of them. Have you ever been guilty of that?
Bad sex is as bad as sex starvation. If one had a bad sexual experience or keep having unsatisfied encounters, it is as good as been sexually starved because the yearning for the real deal would still be haunting the fellow until she gets it in full dose. Now lets look at it this way: In a situation whereby you left your partner for another, because of minor reasons and at the end of the day you found yourself in a situation whereby you felt so bitter and remorseful, you start to wish for a comeback. You keep fantasyzing about him and the memories of all the good times you shared keep tormenting you. Worse still, you even get wet while lost in wild memories of the romantic and bedmatic experience you savored with your ex. What do you do?
This was the case of Julie and Mike. The two were a bonded pair when they were secondary school students. They were often inseparable. You know how the sweet and innocent feeling of secondary school love is, so pure and fun-filled. One thing led to another and Julie was married off against her wish to a wealthy man who came from the city. Her mother was a widow, who lost her husband many years ago. The poor woman toiled to see her first daughter through secondary school, then married her off summarily. All Julie’s pleas for time fell on deaf ears and before you could say Jack Robinson, she was already someone’s “Mrs”.
Due to the circumstances that led to her been sold into marriage against her wish, she found it very difficult to forget about the “soft touches” of her first love. Three months after her forced marriage, she paid a visit to her mother and siblings in her hometown. On her way back to the city, she ran into Mike bumper to bumper. The chemistry between them, from a spark of desire blew into uncontrollable flame of passion within few seconds. They got talking. They re-acquainted themselves, gradually re-igniting the intense feeling of love between them. Julie on her part was lacking true sex, because her husband hardly spares time for her sexually. He was so business-minded, even the little time they spend together in bed, was more like a business transaction, sex merely a ritual, to be performed mechanically. He just jumped on her, hurriedly fired from on all cylinders, pumped away hastily and before two minutes he’s done, panting like someone who just finished 5000 meters marathon in the Olympics.
For Chief, sex was a ceremonial act only for procreation. But Julie was young, and she craved for more fun and attention. Her body yearned for love, affection and good sex. This yearning led her back into the waiting hands of Mike, who knew his onions in the act of the bedroom. The long and short of the story: they were both caught pants down in the web of adultery.
Julie would cook up slightest excuse to visit her mum, but would end up spending quality time indoors with her lover.
...to be continued next week.
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